Interview Transcript: Which Should I Choose, IVF or Egg Freezing? I regretted my mistake of trusting men and failing at both.
Narrator’s background: Today’s protagonist is a female boss, Hui (a pseudonym), 41 years old, Huawei, Tencent and other corporate suppliers, time freedom, financial freedom. The first time I met her, I was attracted by her beauty, gentleness and elegance, but unfortunately, I went to the U.S. 2 times to promote in vitro fertilization but failed. The main reason why Fai came to us today: what should she do next and hope we can give her professional advice.
1 Fai’s Story
The first time I met Fai was in 22 years, at that time, Fai was 39 years old, after ‘netizen’ pointed out to her, she brought her boyfriend to a clinic in California to do IVF, and the result ended up with 1 cyst failure. We met by chance, talked, and read her report: 12-15 follicles in the left and right ovaries, AMH 3.45, normal sex hormone 6, low vitamin D level, and chocolate cysts. According to the previous guests we have helped, 12-15 basal follicles, AMH3.45, normal sex hormone six, it is impossible to fail, there should be at least 5-9 blastocysts, analyze the main reason for her failure is:
1. Having ovarian disease (chocolate cysts) that affects the quality of the eggs, plus choosing an unsuitable ovulation program.
2. During the period of ovulation, I quarreled with my boyfriend and had mood swings, which seriously affected the hormone balance.
In fact, the doctor she chose specialized in 2 types of ovulation regimens, but did not choose the appropriate ovulation regimen according to her physical condition, and used the conventional ovulation regimen, which resulted in only 7 of the 12-15 eggs retrieved, and 5 matured, and eventually ended in failure. After listening to our advice, she came to the US again in 23 years, changed clinics and doctors, and obtained 12 eggs. Unfortunately, on the day of egg retrieval, the marriage-phobic man ran away, and eventually had to change the IVF to egg freezing.
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2 Where to go from here
She was a bit overwhelmed by her two experiences; she wanted a family and wanted to marry before she was 45; she also wanted a sperm, but was torn between raising her own and worrying about the lack of fatherhood for her child.
It breaks our hearts to come across something like this, especially at the point of being in your 40s. We can see that Fai’s heart is actually very eager to be loved, to have a home, and to have children of her own. But marriage and love are not something you can have whenever you want. We are actually most worried about her anxiousness, she is too kind and easily deceived. For this reason, we helped her analyze various assumptions
Assuming she meets someone she likes, married or not, it’s kind of in line with her thinking that the man is willing to take on the responsibility of being a father if they have their own child together in vitro.
But how long would this hypothetical wait? Who knows how sad she would be if she waited and was no longer fertile.
Assuming there is a child and the man is a scumbag and the child isn’t given the love or support she expected, it would be better to be single and buy sperm to have her own child.
So, do you wait for Prince Charming to show up, or do you buy sperm and have it frozen in the U.S. as blastocysts to put you in a better frame of mind to find your other half?
Fai chose to borrow sperm. Although Fai has already frozen her eggs, they are after all semi-finished products that have to be thawed (the recovery rate is much lower than that of blastocysts), then fertilized, and then raised in sacs, etc. Generally speaking, it is safer to freeze more than 20. At the age of 40 or so, it is not recommended to continue freezing sperm. If you freeze blastocysts, the recovery rate will be at least 97%, no matter whether you have met the other half or not, it is not a problem to have a child of your own.
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3 Action Fai
In 2024, Fai’s career has taken a better step but her relationship is still unsettled. There are some love interests but they have not landed.
Today she told me that she is going to the US for another boost, but before she does, she wants to fly to the US West to travel and relax.
Go for it, but remember oh, traveling is fine, make sure you don’t rush and get too tired. Keeping a good mindset and sleeping is the foundation of successful IVF.
Go for it Fai, may our friendship last and look forward to seeing your children and sweet love soon.
